The importance of Timing and Being Ready for what you prayed for

There is great danger in wanting things prematurely that we are not adequately prepared for, because those very things once you get them becomes a problem. There is a gap between what you desire in your life, and what you capable of handling. God will only give you what it thinks you can handle at a given time Often times we may be praying for things that we are not quite ready for. Our motive may be in the right place for needing those things, but our hearts and mind are not aligned to receive the blessings we so desire. If we are not careful and choose to pursue those things anyways, we might end up getting more than we can handle. The thing that was supposed to bring us joy, becomes a source of pain as a result of our impatience. Many of the headaches and frustrations we experience in life, can be avoided if we only learn how to be patient for the things our heart desires until its appropriate time. The good things in life we pray for such as seeing our dreams and visions come to pass, meeting the man/woman of our dreams, buying our dream home, starting a family, or any other thing we are trusting God for, will be rewarding once we are ready to receive those things. I am no expert in this area of waiting on God’s perfect timing. There have been times I have missed God’s timing because I was faced with a lot of pressure, and there were also times when I was just too desperate to get something, that I ended up with the wrong things. Developing the patience in waiting on God’s promise for my life is something I have had to learn again and again. Being in God’s will is the safest place to be, once you step outside of it life becomes a constant struggle. I have started projects that I didn’t complete because God was not involved, I have also trusted the wrong people who didn’t have my best interest at heart, and ended up hurt. There were other times I felt I was ready but the events that followed showed how unprepared I was for the things I wanted. Before you think about pursuing the things you want and need in life, make sure you are also preparing yourself for those things.
Every good gift comes with responsibility, nothing good comes easy. You shouldn’t be praying earnestly for a child, when you cannot even take care of yourself or run a household, you shouldn’t be anxiously waiting to meet the man/woman of your dreams, when you haven’t first discovered who you are, or learned how to love yourself. In addition, you cannot be thinking of having a big platform to inspire people, and motivate them to success in different areas of life, when your own life is out of order, or when you lack the discipline and the ability to motivate yourself. Timing plays an important role in the events that take place in our lives, and everything is beautiful in its own time.
There are also other factors that determine when the timing is right to get our needs met, for instance, our emotional and mental state at the time. Our emotional and mental state can affect the kind of choices we make; the more unstable we are mentally or emotionally the more likely we allow our emotions cloud our vision. As a result we end up making the wrong choice. When we are at a place in our life where we are experiencing a lot of changes that is not a good time to make any life-changing decisions because we are under a lot of stress, and we might end up getting into mistakes. Sometimes, we may be feeling pressure from outside sources, and we are forced to make decisions quickly without giving much thought to it, at other times we make decisions out of desperation and discontent, both outcomes can lead to regrets. God’s timing of giving us the things we need is completely different from our timing. Often times we think we are ready, but God may be thinking we still have some growing to do, so he delays things until we are more matured to handle our heart desires.
At other times God presents our heart desire to us before its timing. This forces us to grow in our relationship with God, because we can’t have what we want at that particular time, which causes us to develop the discipline to wait on God’s perfect timing to receive that thing. The right thing at the wrong time can still feel very wrong. I like how Melvin Davies puts this, and I quote “what is shown to you prematurely serve the purpose of drawing you closer to God, thus strengthening your spiritual walk and relationship with Him, What you can’t have now but is meant for you to have will mature you”. I completely agree to this insight, I am currently at a place where I am seeing something I prayed for, but didn’t know if I could ever experience it, now that I see that it is possible to have that particular thing in that way, I have to be patient for it because I am not fully ready to receive it. I kick myself for not preparing myself for it beforehand, however, I find strength in knowing that this particular situation will grow me and make me better, so when the timing becomes right, I can totally enjoy the blessing God has for me.
My next post will cover how you prepare to receive the blessings God has for you, my focus will be on preparing for your career/purpose/calling and also preparing for love. Stay tuned.

Authenticity: What Is Keeping You From Freedom? 11/03 by ThePeacefulPoeticPlaceRADIO | Motivation Podcasts

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                        Someone once stated, “Authenticity is coming home to the truth of who we are” I couldn’t agree more to this deep truth. Many of us run away from the reality of who we are because we are scared of what the truth will reveal about us. Honesty requires dealing with things we rather not face, and accepting truth that are sometimes painful. There was a point in my life where I just couldn’t accept the place I was, and the person I was becoming. It was so painful to look at my life and not feel like a failure. It was so hard for me to admit my short-comings and accept the areas I was failing, so I avoided the truth at all cost, and also stayed away from people who could point the truth to me.  Although I could hide from other people, I could not hide from myself. Eventually I got tired of living a lie and that was when change began.

                        At the end of each day I was by myself and that was when I felt the most pain because I hated the things I was discovering about myself. In order to be authentic one has to be willing to handle the truth not run away from it. if there are areas you feel you’re lacking in, begin to work on those areas, if there are things you know you need to get done that you keep putting off, get those things done, if there are people you need to separate from that are adding stress to your life, or causing you to feel confused cut those ties.

Often time’s people are afraid to be real because of the expectations that people or the society places on them, they are trying to live up to a standard that contradicts who they are. At other times we inflict pain on ourselves by working so hard to paint an image to other people that is false. We cannot become comfortable in our skin, unless we understand who we are. We need to understand our strengths, our weaknesses, the natural abilities that we possess. We also need to be comfortable being by ourselves, and learning how to love all of ourselves.

                        I am reserved so most of my free time is spent alone, but as I have gotten older I am understanding how my time spent alone is valuable, it helps me get closer to God and understand the depth of his love for me but it is also an opportunity for me to understand myself better. For instance I am realizing I am a deep reflective person, I love to understand things, and turn whatever experience I am having into a learning experience. I also realize I am someone who likes my freedom, anything that holds me down or keeps me stuck I hate. I am drawn to music, because it carries a healing component, every time I listen to soulful songs I feel elated inside, and if I am sad or in pain my mood changes. Music touches and speaks to my heart each time I listen to it. Often times we need to get away from the noise, social media, our own inner thoughts, and from people so we can find God.  Finding God for ourselves allows us to discover who God created us to be, and it helps us understand the plan that he has for our lives. Our identity should be founded on who we are in Christ, and how he perceives us. Every other thing outside God that defines us can we only give us a false identity something that would not last.

There is so much to us than the status we hold, the things we possess, the talents we have, or the connections we have.  We have a depth to us, something unique and special within us, but often time we focus too much attention on what we are not instead of appreciating who we are. When we place too much emphasis on our short-comings we miss out on how our weaknesses or failures can be used as a source of blessing to others. Authenticity is the feeling you get when you are safe at home and you don’t have to perform for people. We cannot find our purpose when we are busying trying to be like everyone else, or when we hide our true identity. We are not truly living unless we are being our authentic self because everything we do in life stems from that. Stay true to who you are and let the right people and opportunities find you.

Faith walk

Walking by faith and not by sight can be difficult when you haven’t developed the discipline in your walk with God. We all are in different levels when it comes to our relationship with God. What my faith will require me to do may look different from what your faith will require of you. This is part of the reason our relationship with God is very personal. I have heard of people who made big changes in their lives such as moving to a different state or country where they haven’t been before with no support or family. I have also heard of folks who have quit college and entered ministry, and people who left corporate America to work as a missionary in a third-world country. All of these are great acts of faith which requires absolute trust in God. Faith is looking into the future with hope even when things around you may appear bleak. My walk with God has led me to believe patience is needed in other to fully enjoy or enter into the great plans God has for us. Anything good worth having is worth waiting for. Most of the blessings I now enjoy came as a result of my patience. I trusted God for both little and big things, and I wasn’t going to settle. I remember when I was searching for a place to rent, as a student I have to move every year and looking for roommates is tough because not everyone is easy to live with. I remember really praying to God about it and the kind of place I was looking for, because I didn’t just want to live anywhere or with just anyone. Some of my friends were wondering why I was making it such a big deal by praying earnestly about it, especially since my lease was almost up and I have to make a quick decision. Long story short I found this place a day before I was supposed to move out and it was everything and more that I wanted. Within 10 minutes of speaking with my current roommate, I knew I had found the place and I felt so much peace about my choice, and I have been living with the same person for some time now. God always comes through for us when we have our minds set on him and our desires line up with his will for our life. His timing may seem late but it’s always worth it in the end. I walk by faith in almost every step I take in life from choosing my major (career path), to searching for a job, or opportunities, to finding the right man, I don’t rush into making a quick decision in areas that have the potential of impacting my life greatly. I am now more careful when making life changing decisions because I have made a couple of mistakes in the past, and those decisions have come with a high cost so now I don’t mind waiting for as long as possible to experience the best God has for me. Of course this means sometimes things take me longer than others, and at times it seems like my life is on hold and nothing much is happening for me. Walking by faith is not a cake walk, there are times where you feel like you’re about to lose it, sometimes you would have to avoid some people because you really don’t know how to respond to their questions, other times you’ll feel lonely because no one understands you. In addition, when things are taking longer than expected, or even when things begin to take a down turn the tendency is to for you to take matters into your hands, and make it happen on your own. There would be times you will feel God has forgotten you, or you may even lose sight of why you are waiting. In the meantime, life goes on as usual, you still have to show up and perform your responsibilities, build friendships, go to work, or do whatever it is you were doing before. It is by no means an easy process, in my life’s journey I have had to walk by faith in almost everything. God must just love to allow me go through the process and build my character instead of giving me the desires of my heart lol. What you learn about yourself, and the lessons you pick up along the way is even more significant than the outcome or the result at the end. I have been searching for a job for two and half years, those years feels like eternity at times. There were many times I was tempted to give up, there were moments were nothing made any sense, and I didn’t know how I was going to get through the day, it was just so painful. But within that time-frame a lot of things were happening inside of me. I grew closer to God because he was all I had, I started reading more, I became wiser in how I handled things, I began to understand myself better, and I became more analytical. When you are alone by yourself that’s when you begin to see things differently for instance you see who is really there for you, you start learning to love yourself because you are by yourself most of the time and you have no choice lol. You also realize the world doesn’t end just because you are going through a difficult time, in fact the world keeps moving on without you lol, and you just really grow as a person during those times. It takes a strong person to believe that where they are is not their destination, but a stop to where they are headed. it takes a maturing Christian to focus on the future even when circumstances around them are discouraging, it takes faith to continue to hold on to the promises God made to you, or the plan he has for your life when things are taking too long. You need to feed your mind with the word of God, listen to worship music or even any positive music to keep you going when you feel like giving up, and you will also need to be surrounded by positive, uplifting people who encourage or bring out the best in you to keep stable. Because the enemy will use whatever means necessary to discourage you, get you off focus, or tempt you to settle for less. Don’t give him a chance keep reminding yourself of God’s truth.