One of the best ways to bring about change in someone life, is not to pray for them to change to conform to the person we want them to be for us, but instead pray that we are not in the way of that change from happening in their life. Sometimes we need to step back and evaluate what is actually going on, to see what we may be missing. After we have prayed we need to give the other person the freedom & the time they need for God to work on them and to reveal the truth to them in a way they can handle, so their heart can be ready to make the change. No one can change anyone or make them do what they don't want to do, or are not ready to do. Only God can change their heart, and he can't do that when we are holding on tightly to them, or trying to force the change to happen.